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When you start throwing lingo you might intimidate them about the subject as a whole. So don't use the word Zako. Depending on the social acceptability of a fetish, you should start small and work towards introducing the real you. The key is to be open minded and nonchalant and hopefully she will be too.

Start with some small aspect of the fetish and let her play with that idea. As she acclimates and sees how much you enjoy it, you can slowly build and add more elements.

If you see her becoming uncomfortable over time as you introduce her to what you like, then maybe you aren't compatible. A healthy partner will enjoy what you enjoy because they want you to be satisfied. If she is right for you on a deep level, she will even adopt a bit of a fascination with it herself, only because of the mental triggers of knowing it does something for you.

They are out there. You shouldnt need to worry about the ultra feminist types because even they have kinks and if they like you enough, you'll get past that armor or... you just aren't compatible.

It's just exploring limits. Even vanilla people sometimes have a kinky side deep down that they've never explored. Fetishes are deeply rooted fixations in your mind, but kinks are different. Some people develop a kink just because they enjoyed it with a partner and would not have organically happened upon it normally.

Also, reciprocate.